Having confidence begins with having a mind full of confident thoughts. A mind that is controlled by you, therefore believing only the things that will bring to you all the things you desire-and deserve. Anyone can have confidence. And, it is entirely easier than you may have once believed. It is a matter of following these 10-easy steps:
1. Stand like you have confidence:
Sit like you have confidence. Walk like you have confidence. Ignore your mind for a while and simply concentrate onthe physical attributes of confidence. If you maintain a confident stance long enough, your mind will certainly become convinced.
2.Listen to people:
Actually smile at them, look them in the eyes and listen intently to determine what you can learn from them. If youtruly listen you will soon find that there can be something learned from everyone. Learning from people and knowing people allows you to emulate theconfident attributes of others.
3. Forget everything you see on television and in magazines with regard to the perfect body image:
Ranking yourself against the buff laden magazine images can lead to a poor body image which is the perfect partner to a lowself-esteem. People are much more likely to become friends with you if you are friendly, smiling and approachable in your manner than they are someonewho simply fits the mold of a perfect body. You are a unique creation of God and perfect just as you are. Know your best attributes and play them offwell. Once you begin to believe you are an attractive person and allow your personality to let it show you'll realize that the body images you'vebeen fed by the media is a bunch of hooey—and you'll find you're not the only one who believes it. By all means it is healthy to have a gooddiet and exercise and once you are the healthiest you, you'll realize you are the best you that you can be.
4. Put your family and friends expectations of you out of your mind and follow your heart:
People are all to quick to tell you how you should live your life whenreally its just an expression of their own shortcomings. Don't allow the shortcomings of others to affect your life negatively. No one but you knowsyour interests and aspirations. Work in the direction of your true loves and ignore everything that enters your consciousness going against your owndesires.
5. Set goals:
It's a great idea to keep a "Goals Book"and every time something enters your mind thatyou'd like to achieve, list it in the book. Soon you'll begin to see a pattern among all your goals. When you make conclusions about your goals youbegin to see simple changes you can make in your life to make your goals a reality. There is no greater joy in life than to realize a goal and nothingbuilds confidence faster. Remember, no goal is too small to write in your book. In many instances, realizing small goals are as beneficial to yourconfidence as realizing the big ones.
6. Challenge your beliefs:
Examine all of your beliefs closely and determine if they arein line with the life you desire. If they are not, toss them out. You may find it difficult to get rid of some of the deep seeded long standingbeliefs, but, with true desire you can abandon negative beliefs about your self and as you do you will realize immense benefit in growing terrificself confidence and self-esteem.
7. Be your own hero:
Perform the short exercise of writing down all the attributes that youadmire in others. Be it benevolence, honesty, humor, integrity, whatever the case write it down. Go ahead, make it a long list. The more you note theattributes in others you'll begin to see the type of person that you truly want to be. Begin emulating these attributes into your own life one-by-oneuntil you get through the entire list. Be prepared to enjoy the immense benefits of being your own hero-it feels great.
8. Get into the flow:
Keep track of what motivates you and stay near those things. Whether it be reading a motivational book, listening to a livelysermon, or speaking to a loved one find the things that truly motivate you and fill your life with these things. Total immersion in motivation is aquick path to achieving goals, keeping positive thoughts, maintaining healthy relationships and having all the things you desire. Keep thatmotivational level up and see the miracles happen almost as if by magic.
9. Believe in a power greater than yourself:
Determining what percentage of society actually believes in god is fraught with all sorts of room for error. After all, do they really believe? But, Ibelieve it is safe to say that the greater majority of society, in some way, believes in a power greater than themselves. This is a wonderful aspectof human existence, to know there is a power that is governing, and that knows our good. Also, prayer and mediation is among the healthiest practicesyou can perform as a daily routine to help to get to the root of problems and sort out all of life's little questions. Knowing a power greater thanyourself allows you the feeling that you are not alone and that you can truly believe in the power of miracles. Who couldn't use a miracle every nowand then.
10. Get started:
Don't expect changes right away and have patience in knowing that it takes time be the person youwish to be. There is truth in the old saying that the "joy is in the journey". The wonderful thing about coming a more self-confidentperson is that little benefits start taking shape almost immediately and, they keep coming one after the other as long as you continue to keep apositive outlook and display your confidence for everyone to see.
As you achieve confidence, and find little moments of confidence coming closer and closer; you will reach a point very soon where there is an exponential growth in self-confidence that will bring great joy into your life and all the things you desire will come to you easier than you ever imagined.